can take many forms, and happen in many different places. We
see it in the workplace, in the home, and the sports field,
but most commonly, at school, where children learn as much about
how to behave towards others as they do about the 3 R's. Unfortunately,
some children learn only too well how to dominate others by
foul means, and sadly begin to enjoy doing so, setting a pattern
for how they will behave as adults. Meanwhile other children,
more easily dominated, suffer miserably, often in silence, and
develop a victim mentality that they may be unable to shake
is being conducted worldwide. He we offer you information to
some of the current thinking and provide concrete ways to help
if this is happening to someone in your own family.
are some of the best web sites available on Bullying. If you
are looking for more websites on the topic, try using these
terms when you do your search: bullying,
bullies, bully, "bullies and schools."
is dedicated to increasing the awareness of, and the problems
associated with, bullying and to preventing, resolving and eliminating
bullying in society.
information about bullying behavior, give examples of strategies
that can be used to free people and institutions from its harmful
effects and provide training courses for people who wish to
promote anti- bullying policies and strategies in schools and
At School Information
The Scottish Council for Research in Education provides information
available to schools by the family of Rachel Scott, a victim
of the Columbine school shootings.
books may be located in either the Children's,Adult or a special
Parenting collection classified under the Dewey numbers 303.6,
371.58 or 649.1. Magazine and newspaper articles can be found
in your local library's database collection. Ask your librarian
help in locating the materials you need or visit your library
online at www.nassaulibrary.org/list/nasslist.html
& Victims: helping your child survive the schoolyard battlefield
by SuEllen & Paula Fried.
book explores the context of teasing and the power of relationships
between children, as well as the roles of adults, schools, the
media and society at large.
are a Pain in the Brain by Trevor Romain.
Every child needs to know how to coope with bullies,
and this book blends humor with serious, pratical suggestions
that will help kids understand, avoid and stand up to bullies
while preserving their own self-esteem.
Bully, the bullied, and the bystander: from pre-school to high
schoool: breaking the cycle of violence by Barbara Coloroso.
The author explains not only the ways that the
bully, the bullied and the bystander are "three
characters in a tragic play" but also how "the scripts
can be rewritten, new roles created, the plot changed."
She breaks down the behavior that defines each role, analyzes
the specific ways that each character can have their behaviors
changed for the better, and suggests a range of methods that
parents and educators can use to identify bullying behavior
and deal with it effectively.
They're Teasing Me: helping your child solve social problems
by Michael Thompson and Lawrence Cohen.
The authors, use their experiences as parents
and child psychologists to unravel the complex dynamics of social
interactions among children. They note that parents and teachers
between children from their own biased perspectives and bringing
childhood memories to their evaluations. This book is aimed
at helping parents put things in perspective, learn about what
children often don't reveal, and find the balance between agonizing
over every slight and overlooking significant problems.
about Bullying by Jillian Powell.
easy to understand book for young children depicts children
coping with their feelings and taking positive action. A note
to adults provides suggestions for talking with children about
Child: bully or victim?: understanding and ending schoolyard
tyranny by PeterSheras.
Specific tools to use against bullying are highlighted
in the text, including coping mechanisms for hostile encounters
at school and on the bus, strategies for confronting the parents
of bullies, and legal, therapeutic, and community remedies.